Top 10 Things Couples Should Not Share

It’s proven that a relationship between husband and wife is the strongest relationship and at the same time, it´s as weak as a thread. Some people try to make it crystal clear that it is not a good option, as when a wife or husband thought that she/he should share everything with him/her so he/she could accept her/him with all the faults and strengths, that seemed to be very interesting while reading in novels and watching in movies/dramas, BUT reality is very different. We have to keep many things to ourselves. We share many things with one friend and share other stuff with another friend because we know that what type of friend we have and what type of things he or she can digest. With husband/wife, things are different, whether they are like your friends or they act like your supporter (or like fathers/mothers), still it´s a totally different relationship, so one has to think before one speaks.

The 10 Most Important Things Which A Wife/Husband Should Not Share With Her Husband /his Wife can alter considering the individual difference but still generally speaking the issues are as follows:

1-Complaints

Wives , please don’t talk about your husbands family reactions and especially their parents complaints excessively in front of them, do it once a month if it bothers you a lot but frequently complaining about husbands parents and family can make his finding faults against you and your family in revenge. So sure your relationship by holding your tongue.It will help you to live a happy life with your husband and his family too.

2-Family Gossips/Matters

Don’t share with your husband/wife your own family gossips or family fights, in this way you are providing your weaknesses to your husband/wife so he/she cut remarks on you and your family when ever he/she is offended with you or with your family. So before getting too much emotional keep this on your mind before telling something to your husbandwife.

3-Stop Writing Diaries

you should not let your diaries easily accessible to paertner, it might be dangerous in longer rum for the relationship, because the written proof is always dangerous, stop writing dairies, don’t let your secrets openly available.

4-Affairs, Breakups or experiences

Weshould not share our previous affairs, breakups or experiences with our husband/wife as sometimes wives think that they wanted to be a clean picture in front of their husbands, so dear their is no need for that cause if you tell that once to your husband will be going to open the door of doubts and suspicion in his minds which could never be recovered.

5-siblings Secrets

Do not share your siblings secrets with your husband/wife or their views or type of relationship with your siblings, it will create a feeling of disrespect in husband/wife´s heart for her family, or may husband/wife will try to ignore your relatives in future.

6-Comparison

Mostly females when got married, they start a comparison between their father and their brothers with their husband and usually they give example of her parents and siblings in each thing what the husband do or say, so they should realize that they have a husband, its not their father or brother, so they should expect him to act and react as their husbands, whether they tell emotional stories of their fathers or brothers love and care towards her still he remain the husband,so wives should stop doing this and stop sharing what their father or brother do or don’t do with their husbands, as it irritates the husbands and some times whether they are in a mood of doing good to the wives, in anger they do bad.

7-Privacy

Wives/husbands should not leave their  mobiles without codes, as by accident too if your husband/wife catches your messages or phone calls (your gossips about in laws, about him/her or about any other issues) it can become an issue, in the same way don’t give your emails or face book passwords to your husband/wife.It does not mean that wives/husbands should cheat their husbands/wives but they should keep something in their privacy only.

8-Stories About friendships

We feel proud by telling the stories about our  friendships and about their achievements to our husbands/wivies which also creates a feeling of tussle in the males as they take that as a show off thing and sometimes try to prove themselves better by making their wives inferior verbally or non-verbally.

9-professional problems

Few people said that a wife should not share her professional problems related to other male colleagues with her husband, as it hurts the male´s ego and his first reaction would be to complain against him (her colleague) or he also can ask her to leave the job or if he is an aggressive kind of a person he can reply aggressively in any way, whether towards his wife or towards the colleague.

10- Apprehensions

Wives share their apprehensions about their husband´s colleagues or usually show their dis likeness by talking negative about their husbands colleagues and friends which might result into fights and then the husbands has to pay back in the same coin. Sometimes try to prove themselves better by making their wives inferior verbally or non-verbally.

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